Debut Countdown – 1 day! Post a Comment for a Chance to Win!

Posted at Oct 30, 2011 1:00 am in , , , , ,

One of the aspects of writing the Death & Taxes series that was both the most challenging and the most fun was creating the men in Tara’s life.  It was tempting to make her boyfriend, Brett Ellington, perfect.  But then he wouldn’t seem real.  And, honestly, as I thought things through, I realized I had no idea what the perfect man would look like and act like. 

Many of the things that are attractive in a man are mutually exclusive.  Should he be tall, dark, and handsome?  A business type in a power suit with a high-paying job downtown?  Or should he be less refined, maybe a lean, natural type, with shaggy sun-bleached blond hair, blue jeans, and a mischievous grin?  Either type could provide some fun.  And should he be a self-assured, take-charge alpha male?  Or perhaps he should be a less dominating, easier-to-be-with beta?  Some situations call for one, some for the other. 

In theory, the perfect man would understand his woman, sense her every mood and respond accordingly.  He’d be a good provider, physically fit, tough but sweet and caring, too.  He’d cook, clean, pay the bills, walk the dog, scoop the litter box . . . okay, even I’m not believing this anymore.  Such a creature simply does not exist.

But that’s actually a good thing, right?  Really, if the men in our lives were perfect, it would be easy to become complacent.  There’d also be no arguments followed by make-up nooky.  Life would probably be pretty darn boring.  And who are we to expect perfection?  Speaking for myself, I know I’m far from perfect.  And I don’t want to even try to be.  Who needs that kind of pressure?  My hubby isn’t perfect either.  He leaves every light on in the house and I have to follow behind him turning them all off.  He also leaves cabinet doors hanging open, as well as the lid to the washer.  But he never complains about my lack of housekeeping or cooking skills, either, and he forgives my occasional random bitchfests and the fact that I tend to take in every stray cat that appears on my doorstep.  So, all in all, I think I made a pretty good choice.

What traits would make a man “perfect?”  Is there even such a thing as a “perfect” man?  What traits do you find attractive and what traits are deal breakers?  Join in the chat for a chance to win a copy of Death, Taxes, and a French Manicure, some SWAG, and a $10 e-giftcard.  The winner will be announced this evening, so be sure to check back to see if you’ve won!  



11 responses to “Debut Countdown – 1 day! Post a Comment for a Chance to Win!”

  1. Pam Asberry says:

    There IS no such thing as the perfect man, as far as I’m concerned. But I am willing to settle for a guy who worships for as the goddess I am! 😉

  2. Pam Asberry says:

    That should have said worships ME as the goddess I am. I need more caffeine, apparently!

  3. Patience Jackson says:

    Ahhh…the perfect man. I agree that cleaning house and doing laundry would be up there. But the truth is that my idea of a perfect man is one who gets me, quirks and all, and loves me anyway. One of the things that is great about my husband is that he loves it when I tell him a story. He has genuine excitement in his eyes. Secondly and most importanly, he doesn’t mind the few extra pounds I’ve put on.

    • Diane Kelly says:

      Exactly what kind of stories are you telling your husband that cause that gleam in his eye? : ). I agree. There’s nothing better than a man who understands his woman. Your hubby sounds like a great guy!

  4. Diane Kelly says:

    Random. Org picked number 1 – that’s you, Pam! Thanks to everyone for visiting my site!

  5. donna parsons says:


    Can’t wait to see you at the Barnes and Noble book signing next weekend!

    The perfect man in my life was our dog Charlie, when I was growing up. He was a mutt living on the streets when we took him in but we grew to love him very quickly. He was steadfastly loyal (to me), faithful (to me), stayed close to home, kept an eye on things for me, gave me lots of kisses, shared many a meal with me (and a bed too) and was always happy to see me. This little guy, and the many like him, have alot to teach the human male!

  6. ellie says:

    perfection is hard to attain but a man with depth, compassion, sincerity as well as willing to listen. Soemone who will be loyal and true for life.

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